Love & relationships · Closer
Questions to ask your partner, one week at a time
Closer is a couples' workbook for twenty minutes a week: one conversation, a few questions to go deeper, one small ritual and a date idea. Over a year, it adds up to 52 conversations you'd never otherwise have had, and a relationship that feels closer, warmer and more fun.
- 52 weekly conversations
- 208 go-deeper questions
- 104 conversation cards
- 52 date-night ideas
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What you'll be able to do
After reading, you'll be able to
- Talk about more than logistics with one guided conversation a week, in four seasons: Know, Appreciate, Play and Build.
- Notice the small moments that research links to lasting relationships: bids, good news and thank-yous (Lessons 1 to 3).
- Keep things fun with new experiences, date ideas and a shared dream list (Lesson 4, Season 3).
- Disagree more gently with soft starts, repair phrases and an agreed time-out (Lesson 5 and the Repair Kit).
- Check in every week with the 15-minute State of Us, so small things stay small.
- Write your story with a relationship timeline, a year-end review and letters to open later.
The toolkit
The workbook, plus a toolkit for two
One purchase, five downloads, yours to keep. Print the cards for the dinner table, the date nights for a jar, and save the surprise for Season 2.
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The workbook
Six short lessons, 52 weekly conversations in four seasons, the weekly check-in, the Repair Kit, your story, a dream list and a year in review.
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104 Conversation Cards
52 fun and 52 deep questions for dinners, walks, road trips and date nights.
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52 Date Night Cards
A year of date nights, mostly cheap or free: 26 at home and 26 out.
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The surprise (for Season 2)
Something you make together now and treasure for years.
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Check-in & Repair Cards
The weekly State of Us check-in, soft starts, repair phrases and the time-out, on wallet cards and a fridge sheet.
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Free tool
A question for the two of you tonight
Choose a mood, get a question, and ask it over dinner, on a walk or in bed. Or send it to your partner now, so you both have something to look forward to later.
If we had a theme song, what would it be?
Take turns answering. Then ask one more: "What was that like?" or "Why do you think that is?"
These 24 questions are a taste. The workbook has 52 weekly conversations with 208 go-deeper questions, plus 104 printable conversation cards and 52 date-night cards.
Inside the guide
What's inside
Three parts: six short lessons, 52 weekly conversations in four seasons, and tools for the two of you.
Six lessons
What research says keeps couples close, five minutes each.
- 01Turn toward
- 02Celebrate good news
- 03Say thank you
- 04Do new things together
- 05Fight gently
- 06Keep learning each other
Fifty-two conversations
Four seasons of thirteen weeks: Know, Appreciate, Play, Build.
- 07Season 1: Know
- 08Season 2: Appreciate
- 09Season 3: Play
- 10Season 4: Build
Tools for two
For every week, and for the hard moments.
- 11The weekly check-in
- 12The Repair Kit
- 13Our story
- 14Our dream list
- 15Our year in review
Free from the workbook
Six questions to ask your partner tonight
Copy one, ask it at dinner or on a walk, and take turns answering. Then ask one more question.
Where we come from
Then try: Who made you feel safest as a child?
Our first impressions
Then try: When did you know this was serious?
What I love about you
Then try: What's something I do that makes you proud?
Our best memories
Then try: What's our funniest memory?
The bucket list
Then try: What's a small adventure we could have this month?
Our dreams
Then try: What dream of mine do you most want to see come true?
These six are word for word from the workbook. Every week also has four go-deeper questions, a small ritual to try and a date idea.
Look inside
Real pages from the workbook
Large type, a page for each week and printables you'll actually use.
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Every week
All 52 weekly conversations
Four seasons, thirteen weeks each. Start anywhere, skip anything, and never feel behind.
Season 1 · Know
- 01Where we come from
- 02Our first impressions
- 03The people who shaped us
- 04How our families loved
- 05Small pleasures
- 06What scares us
- 07Who we were at 16
- 08Work and purpose
- 09Our inner world
- 10How we recharge
- 11What we believe
- 12Our quirks
- 13Knowing you now
Season 2 · Appreciate
- 14What I love about you
- 15Our best memories
- 16Thank you for
- 17Hard times we got through
- 18Open When
- 19What you bring out in me
- 20Love in small things
- 21Our people
- 22Proud of you
- 23The little rituals
- 24When I feel close to you
- 25Admiration
- 26Grateful for us
Season 3 · Play
- 27How we play
- 28The bucket list
- 29Something new
- 30Our soundtrack
- 31Tiny adventures
- 32Laughter
- 33Outdoors
- 34Food adventures
- 35Romance
- 36Spontaneity
- 37Learning together
- 38Play with others
- 39More play
Season 4 · Build
- 40Our home
- 41Sharing the load
- 42Money and meaning
- 43Our dreams
- 44Family
- 45When we disagree
- 46Health and care
- 47Work and life
- 48Growing older together
- 49Giving back
- 50Our legacy
- 51What we need now
- 52A year closer
Each week in the workbook has a main question, four go-deeper questions, a small ritual for the week, a date idea and space for both of you to write.
What you get
Everything that's inside
- The 88-page workbook in large print, with a page for every week and room for both of you to write.
- Six short lessons on bids, good news, gratitude, novelty, fighting gently and learning each other, with sources.
- 52 weekly conversations with 208 go-deeper questions, 52 rituals and 52 date ideas.
- The weekly check-in and the Repair Kit for staying close in busy weeks and finding your way back after hard moments.
- 104 conversation cards 52 fun and 52 deep, ready to print and cut.
- 52 date-night cards mostly cheap or free, at home and out.
- Check-in and repair cards wallet-size, plus a fridge sheet.
- A printable surprise for Season 2, best opened together.
This guide is for you if
- You love each other but most of your conversations are about schedules and chores.
- You want a simple weekly ritual that brings you closer.
- You're looking for a meaningful gift for a partner, an anniversary or newlyweds.
- You want practical ideas backed by relationship research, without therapy-speak.
It's not for you if
- Your relationship involves fear, threats or control. Please read the safety note and reach out for support.
- You're in a serious crisis. A licensed couples therapist can help in ways a workbook can't.
Start this week
Get the guide and toolkit
Twenty minutes a week, one conversation, one small ritual. A year from now, you'll know each other better than you do today, and you'll have the pages to prove it.
Printable workbook + toolkit · 88 pages · 2026 edition
Closer
- The workbook · Printable PDF · 88 pages · large print
- 104 Conversation Cards · Printable PDF · 18 card pages
- 52 Date Night Cards · Printable PDF · 9 card pages
- The surprise (for Season 2) · Printable PDF · best opened together
- Check-in & Repair Cards · Printable PDF · wallet cards + fridge sheet
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Good questions
Questions people ask
How does the workbook work?
Pick a regular time each week, open the week's page together, take turns answering the main question, go deeper if you like, choose the week's ritual and write a line about what you learned. About twenty minutes.
Do we have to do all 52 weeks in order?
No. Start with Season 1 if you can, but skip, repeat or jump around. Missed weeks don't matter.
Is it based on research?
The six lessons summarize well-known findings on bids for connection, responding to good news, everyday gratitude, novel activities, how conflicts start and closeness, with sources listed at the back.
Is this couples therapy?
No. It's a workbook for couples who feel safe with each other and want to grow closer. It includes a safety note, and it works well alongside counseling if you're already seeing someone.
Does it suit new couples, married couples, or both?
Both. The questions work in the first year and the fortieth. Newer couples learn a lot; long-term couples are often surprised by how much they still discover.
Is it a good gift?
Yes. Print it, put it in a nice binder with a pen, tie the conversation cards with ribbon, and add a date-night card for the first week.
What exactly do I download?
Five files: the 88-page workbook, 104 conversation cards, 52 date-night cards, the Season 2 surprise and the check-in and repair cards.
How do I get the files after paying?
Right after checkout you come back to your SkillNugget library, and we email you a sign-in link. Download the files there any time, on any device. No password needed.
Keep learning
Goes well with
Be curious about each other.
52 weekly conversations, 104 cards and 52 date nights, for less than a dinner out.
Closer is a workbook for couples who feel safe with each other. It is not couples therapy, counseling or medical advice. If you feel unsafe, contact your local emergency number or, in the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. Research findings are summarized in plain English; see the Sources page in the workbook.